Taking into consideration that children have some vague notion about death from the age of two years, that the likelihood of their death or a loved one is always present and how the ideas of children about death affect the emotional, psychological and mental development, It is very important to talk to children about death.
The loss of a loved one will not have to be a child's first experience with the fact of death. Opportunities should be given familiarity from very early. Events of everyday life – the death of a pet, a flower – You may provide us with such opportunities.
Preparing a ceremony for a dead pet can but help to start a discussion about the perception of the child about death and what kind of behavior it considers appropriate. For example: Should we cry when something happens like that; Should the deceased be buried or incinerate; What do you think happens after death; Simply put, the preparation and the fact of the funeral can take the form of a play therapy. The child has the opportunity to try, to experiencing feelings probarei: denial (my pet will return), guilt (Perhaps I took care of my pet correctly) Sorry (I miss my pet) anger (why you left me my pet;) crying for replacement (can I have another animal;) We realize that for kids, the death of a pet is even with a loved one.
When someone discusses the death of a pet to a loved one, There are some things you need to bear in’ account. When you lost a loved one, Perhaps Kids somehow feel responsible. Children often believe that they have some magical powers and that someone's death automatically all consider that the death was caused by the wish that they did. Special care must be taken to recognize in children the chance to feel so, as well as the subsequent guilt, so with prosechtikes and qualified discussions to help children to understand how it really happened the death. We should always remember that kids are looking for causes. Already questions with the “Why” There are very early in their development.
Knowledge of children about the questions and the behaviors that we accept, their experiences from the past, what it means death for them , all of these affect their behavior in-depth. You might know that death marks the end of life, either the express or not, But what really bothers me is the fear of isolation. In the experience of loss experienced by the irrevocable separation. Must assure clearly indirectly, through speech and behavioral antidepressant touch, that will not be left alone or beached.
Every time you talk to a child about death, It is very important to create an environment that will allow to express thoughts and feelings. The tragedy that we experience ourselves as adults is not the tragedy of children. All you may have experienced the pain of loss, but everyone has lost and react differently. As children may have the same perception of death as us adults but to express different, so you can have the same feelings with us and to express in a different way. This problem became particularly apparent in the case of brothers or very sick children. Anastatwnontan when mothers were brother in death of brother listening with expressions such as ” Nice, Now you can have all of the games”. Later it was realized that this was the way to express the brother's anger toward the deceased person because he fled and left him only, as well as the whole repressed impression you had of how his mother was.
There are definitely some behaviors that can be avoided if we know where we are. We must be aware of our own thoughts and feelings. We should say to kids that don't believe in fantasies. The paradise is only justified if we or pisteyoyne children in this. However, in any case we must avoid the metaphor of death with sleep or with journey did children fear. Similarly, We should say to the children that God wants good people. We have to show respect and to be aware that children know. They have many ideas, other right and others wrong. Should we take the elements that give us children and to respond to what they want to know in a way suited to their age.