Most of what has been said about how we talk about death in healthy children, can also be applied in the case of heavy sick children. However, There are points that need redefining or special attention.
We must not overlook the problem long ago divulged to children that die. Sick children pose different questions and have different concerns and needs at different stages of their illness. Briefly, Once a diagnosis is made, concerned about the serious nature of their disease, the fact that it is more sick than ever has been done in the past. When you manage a first understanding, seeking to learn about medications used in the treatment, and their side effects. Interested to know that while they are sick, at the same time recovering. When children experience the first relapse revert all the old doubts and fears. Wondering if you'll be forever sick. Trying to learn what they can about each process in which will be. When you suffer from chronic relapses, ask questions about the chronic nature of their illness. Want to know if and when it will end their chronic pain. At this point in time, the death of a friend maybe give the information you need. So maybe realise that as their friend, so will die and those.
While children want to express that they are informed of their condition, at the same time afraid that doing so will result in being left alone. They know that the direct expression of their knowledge will cost them the company of people who want their next, of their parents. So, to ensure the continuous presence of the, resort to reciprocal pretexts – hypocrisy. However, the fact that children are trying to communicate their knowledge, Maybe indicate their need to share this knowledge with their nearby persons. For this reason, Perhaps the best approach as regards the psychological management of heavy sick children is one that allows the child and mutual hypocrisy with those who feel comfortable in this plot, and direct knowledge with those who also feel comfortable.
If we are the person to whom the child expresses its full update, Let's hear what he has to tell us. Let's take the data from the child and to respond to what, What ask us. Benefit more when the questions satisfy on their own terms, When we are helping them to do what they want – to reveal to some, to conceal from others – and it is this that is – children who are aware of themselves, of their needs and the needs of the people around them.